To adopt a stance is to use it, at a particular moment, as a way of addressing a problem of meaningness.
As I explained earlier, stances are unstable. Frequently one adopts a stance only for a few seconds or minutes, before abandoning it for another one.
Mostly, people are not aware of the stances they adopt.
Maintaining, committing, rejecting, and stabilizing
To maintain a stance is to adopt it continuously for a longer period.
To commit means to decide to maintain a stance consistently in the future. For example, you might resolve always to adopt mission as an approach to purpose, rather than materialism.
The various stances that concern a particular dimension of meaningness contradict each other, and are mutually exclusive. Committing to one implies rejecting the others. For example, committing to thinking of yourself as ordinary implies rejecting the stances of specialness and nobility.
To stabilize a stance means putting in place structures and strategies that support your commitment to it by making it easier to maintain.
Commitment via systems
Although people actually think about meaningness in terms of stances, mostly they think they think about meaningness in terms of “systems.” Systems include religions, philosophies, ideologies, spiritual and psychological frameworks, and so forth.
Because people are mostly not aware of stances, it is somewhat unusual to commit to a stance directly. Instead, people commit to systems, which in turn demand certain stances.
An obvious example: most Western religions require the stance of eternalism. To be a good Christian, you are supposed to adopt eternalism whenever questions of meaningness arise.
To accomplish a stance means that you actually do consistently adopt it, every time its dimension of meaningness becomes an issue. For example, accomplishing nihilism would mean that you always regard everything as meaningless.
In most cases, I think accomplishment is impossible in practice. Human beings are not actually put together in a way that makes it possible to see everything as meaningless. (Or as meaningful, as would be required to accomplish eternalism.)
Wavering and antidotes
If you have committed to a stance, and have not accomplished it, you must apply effort to adopt it in cases in which it doesn’t seem to fit; and you often fail. I call this wavering.
Wavering causes emotional and cognitive problems. I explain what these problems are, for each specific stance, in the main part of this book. For complete stances, I show how to resolve the difficulties. For confused stances, I provide antidotes.
Antidotes destabilize a confused stance with patterns of thinking, feeling, and acting that reveal its errors and harms, and that guide you toward adopting the corresponding complete stance instead.
Each confused stance, although mistaken and usually damaging when adopted, is based on a valuable insight. (Otherwise, it would not be attractive at all.)
For example, monism, the idea that “all is One,” is based on the accurate insight that we are not isolated individuals, that there is no hard boundary between self and other, and that things are connected in innumerable ways, many of which we cannot know.
When one adopts a complete stance, the intelligent aspects of confused stances can be appropriated as tools. A complete stance is “complete” in that it incorporates the intelligent parts of the opposed confused stances for that dimension of meaningness. From the standpoint of the complete stance, the confused stances (which everyone understands) can be used to communicate the complete insight, and to draw others to it.
For example, although it is not true that “all is One,” the language of monism may be useful in explaining that things are non-separate—which is true.